Long Distance.
I haven't written in a while.
To be honest, I haven't known what to write in a while. I didn't want to just write stuff, so I figured I'd think on it. Then life got in the way, then I started to entertain the thought of making vlogs.... But since Friday, I've had something heavy on my mind, and so I wanted to share it with you.
Or whoever reads this. I still have no idea.
So I'm 3,000 miles away from all of my friends. Wait, let me rephrase that. I'm 3,000 miles away from my closest friends, and the people who I do know who are closer to me are 45 minutes to an hour away, which is more difficult than I can explain.
But, I digress..
I maintained that when I moved out here that I would be able to maintain my friendships that I have. I knew that communication would be at a premium, and knowing that I didn't know when I would see them again, making sure communication was flowing was essential. For me, it leads to trust, honesty, and integrity. I don't have to question what you say, I can believe you.
There's one situation right now, with a friend. He and I have been friends for a long time. We've been through ups and downs, like most friendships, and it has always left us walking away having learned a lot and grown together. That's always good.
One thing I always said is that you have to communicate honestly with me. I understand that as people grow, they change. They get older, they may want to experiment with different things, but I always ask that you're safe and responsible. Those are my only two things, things I'm sure anyone else would say.
So you can imagine when the truth comes out about something they've hidden or led you to believe, it can be a bit disheartening to deal with.
It's kinda rough to think about, just because I feel like I suck at trying to explain how I feel. I've already been told by someone that I don't have the right to be mad or upset about the situation, and I've been told that even though we're "best friends", because we're separated by 3,000 miles we're not going to be close. I can't know what influences, people, or circumstances are around. And on top of that I feel like I can't necessarily talk to anyone about it, because I feel like no one will understand how I feel, and without knowledge of the situation, it's hard to explain all sides.
But something through this whole thing has made me realize.
Long Distance is totally possible.
You see, I have a lot of friends that live away from me. They're not all necessarily in Georgia either. This one situation aside, I have a lot of friends in different places, and while the circumstances are all different, over the last [whatever number] of months since I left Statesboro in July, I've come to appreciate the level of communication I do have with my friends, wherever they may be.
I know it hasn't been easy, but I really do appreciate it.
I don't care what anyone tells me, I firmly believe that it is possible to remain close to someone and be separated by thousands of miles. It may not be the exact same closeness. The friendship will continue to evolve, but friendships will do that as the both of you continue to grow and gain knowledge. That happens even when you're living in the same town as your friends.
The friends that I have, they keep me grounded. I trust them, I want to help them, I want to do all I can for them, even if I can't be there physically. I want there to be no doubt that near, far, or anything in between, that I'll be there for you.... just like the song says. There should never be a doubt in your mind, a cast of worry, or anything like that, where you think that because I'm far away you have no place in my life. Right now things may be a bit exaggerated because I am literally only surrounded by my family, but that's a different story of sorts.
It's a bit strange, I've gotten to know people, and it's almost as if I've gotten to know them BETTER, and we literally have several states (and potentially an ocean) separating us. But I wouldn't have it any other way, to be honest.
So, I say this to tell you, don't let anyone tell you that it's impossible for a long-distance relationship, friendship, or bond to work. Nothing is impossible. May be hard, but what's life if there weren't some challenges thrown in there?
I almost let someone tell me that. It's someone I love and trust. And I still love and trust them. But no one knows my friendships like I know my friendships. Like right now, I'm talking to a friend on Facebook chat. We just discussed our relationship histories. We also talk NASCAR, politics, religion, more NASCAR, stupid people, MORE NASCAR, life, our equal dislike for Kyle Busch, and all the topics in between and beyond. I haven't seen her since May. God knows when I'll see her again. But I love her to death and I wouldn't have our friendship any other way.
I have another friend. We've gotten into the mode of sending cards to each other. She's in Atlanta. I REALLY don't know when I'll see her again. She was my last roommate before I graduated. I honestly feel like our friendship can evolve and grow over these 3,000 miles if we want it to.
That's how it should be. Near or far, we're friends. The nature of our friendship will remain, if we want it. And believe me, I want all my friendships, have no intention of getting rid of them.
Short Distance or Long Distance.
To be honest, I haven't known what to write in a while. I didn't want to just write stuff, so I figured I'd think on it. Then life got in the way, then I started to entertain the thought of making vlogs.... But since Friday, I've had something heavy on my mind, and so I wanted to share it with you.
Or whoever reads this. I still have no idea.
So I'm 3,000 miles away from all of my friends. Wait, let me rephrase that. I'm 3,000 miles away from my closest friends, and the people who I do know who are closer to me are 45 minutes to an hour away, which is more difficult than I can explain.
But, I digress..
I maintained that when I moved out here that I would be able to maintain my friendships that I have. I knew that communication would be at a premium, and knowing that I didn't know when I would see them again, making sure communication was flowing was essential. For me, it leads to trust, honesty, and integrity. I don't have to question what you say, I can believe you.
There's one situation right now, with a friend. He and I have been friends for a long time. We've been through ups and downs, like most friendships, and it has always left us walking away having learned a lot and grown together. That's always good.
One thing I always said is that you have to communicate honestly with me. I understand that as people grow, they change. They get older, they may want to experiment with different things, but I always ask that you're safe and responsible. Those are my only two things, things I'm sure anyone else would say.
So you can imagine when the truth comes out about something they've hidden or led you to believe, it can be a bit disheartening to deal with.
It's kinda rough to think about, just because I feel like I suck at trying to explain how I feel. I've already been told by someone that I don't have the right to be mad or upset about the situation, and I've been told that even though we're "best friends", because we're separated by 3,000 miles we're not going to be close. I can't know what influences, people, or circumstances are around. And on top of that I feel like I can't necessarily talk to anyone about it, because I feel like no one will understand how I feel, and without knowledge of the situation, it's hard to explain all sides.
But something through this whole thing has made me realize.
Long Distance is totally possible.
You see, I have a lot of friends that live away from me. They're not all necessarily in Georgia either. This one situation aside, I have a lot of friends in different places, and while the circumstances are all different, over the last [whatever number] of months since I left Statesboro in July, I've come to appreciate the level of communication I do have with my friends, wherever they may be.
I know it hasn't been easy, but I really do appreciate it.
I don't care what anyone tells me, I firmly believe that it is possible to remain close to someone and be separated by thousands of miles. It may not be the exact same closeness. The friendship will continue to evolve, but friendships will do that as the both of you continue to grow and gain knowledge. That happens even when you're living in the same town as your friends.
The friends that I have, they keep me grounded. I trust them, I want to help them, I want to do all I can for them, even if I can't be there physically. I want there to be no doubt that near, far, or anything in between, that I'll be there for you.... just like the song says. There should never be a doubt in your mind, a cast of worry, or anything like that, where you think that because I'm far away you have no place in my life. Right now things may be a bit exaggerated because I am literally only surrounded by my family, but that's a different story of sorts.
It's a bit strange, I've gotten to know people, and it's almost as if I've gotten to know them BETTER, and we literally have several states (and potentially an ocean) separating us. But I wouldn't have it any other way, to be honest.
So, I say this to tell you, don't let anyone tell you that it's impossible for a long-distance relationship, friendship, or bond to work. Nothing is impossible. May be hard, but what's life if there weren't some challenges thrown in there?
I almost let someone tell me that. It's someone I love and trust. And I still love and trust them. But no one knows my friendships like I know my friendships. Like right now, I'm talking to a friend on Facebook chat. We just discussed our relationship histories. We also talk NASCAR, politics, religion, more NASCAR, stupid people, MORE NASCAR, life, our equal dislike for Kyle Busch, and all the topics in between and beyond. I haven't seen her since May. God knows when I'll see her again. But I love her to death and I wouldn't have our friendship any other way.
I have another friend. We've gotten into the mode of sending cards to each other. She's in Atlanta. I REALLY don't know when I'll see her again. She was my last roommate before I graduated. I honestly feel like our friendship can evolve and grow over these 3,000 miles if we want it to.
That's how it should be. Near or far, we're friends. The nature of our friendship will remain, if we want it. And believe me, I want all my friendships, have no intention of getting rid of them.
Short Distance or Long Distance.
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