Heading Into 2015: Relationships
With establishing contact with people again in 2015, the one thing I want to look at as well is relationships. Focus on the relationships that matter most to me, and don't invest energy and time into the relationships that aren't a 2-way street.
Too many times in my life I've focused on the relationships that don't matter, essentially. Those are the ones where the person treats you like dog crap, never bother to check in on you but get angry when you don't check in with them, and essentially treat a friendship as a one-way street. Too many times in my life I've given all I have into a friendship only to be treated, in my view, like I'm not worth your time. I will say in 2014 that I didn't give much attention to those kinds of people, but on the inverse I probably didn't devote the time and effort to a lot of my friends that I should have or could have.
In a way, I almost view it as getting to know someone again. And that can be kinda cool when you think about it.
I think a lot of times I got caught up in my life. Work life is very interesting and can be taxing at moments. A lot of things happened in my family life that completely altered my viewpoints there. The constant has been my friends, with whom I spend a lot of time talking to and essentially venting to. So I feel like it's only appropriate to give them that same value in return.
Heading into 2015, I want to focus on those relationships that matter. As I beef up the contact, along with that just comes the natural feeling of friendship. I feel pretty fortunate to have the friends that I do have; a vast majority of those people are nearly 3,000 miles (or more) away fro me. And somehow our friendships have stood the test of time and distance. Those people, the ones who have been that constant, are the relationships that deserve great attention.
At the same time too, knowing that I'll probably be in California for some time, I should also take note of the friendships I've formed here as well. Being at CarMax has definitely exposed me to people I probably wouldn't have seen otherwise, and through that, I feel I've started (or have formed) bonds with people that are pretty cool.... some more influential than others, but have definitely helped to give me a greater sense of self.
In that, I don't want to get so absorbed in keeping contact with those who are thousands of miles away that I lose sight of the people I have right in front of my face. I've done that before, and it hasn't ended well. It's all about finding that balance between both.
It's almost weird thinking that at one point after my move here in July 2012 I thought I'd never make any friends, let alone meet any people, in California.
I think focusing on these relationships will help remind me what I truly do have. And who knows, maybe through that a special someone will peep between the clouds. I guess I'll just have to wait until 2015 to find out. : )
#HeadingInto2015
Too many times in my life I've focused on the relationships that don't matter, essentially. Those are the ones where the person treats you like dog crap, never bother to check in on you but get angry when you don't check in with them, and essentially treat a friendship as a one-way street. Too many times in my life I've given all I have into a friendship only to be treated, in my view, like I'm not worth your time. I will say in 2014 that I didn't give much attention to those kinds of people, but on the inverse I probably didn't devote the time and effort to a lot of my friends that I should have or could have.
In a way, I almost view it as getting to know someone again. And that can be kinda cool when you think about it.
I think a lot of times I got caught up in my life. Work life is very interesting and can be taxing at moments. A lot of things happened in my family life that completely altered my viewpoints there. The constant has been my friends, with whom I spend a lot of time talking to and essentially venting to. So I feel like it's only appropriate to give them that same value in return.
Heading into 2015, I want to focus on those relationships that matter. As I beef up the contact, along with that just comes the natural feeling of friendship. I feel pretty fortunate to have the friends that I do have; a vast majority of those people are nearly 3,000 miles (or more) away fro me. And somehow our friendships have stood the test of time and distance. Those people, the ones who have been that constant, are the relationships that deserve great attention.
At the same time too, knowing that I'll probably be in California for some time, I should also take note of the friendships I've formed here as well. Being at CarMax has definitely exposed me to people I probably wouldn't have seen otherwise, and through that, I feel I've started (or have formed) bonds with people that are pretty cool.... some more influential than others, but have definitely helped to give me a greater sense of self.
In that, I don't want to get so absorbed in keeping contact with those who are thousands of miles away that I lose sight of the people I have right in front of my face. I've done that before, and it hasn't ended well. It's all about finding that balance between both.
It's almost weird thinking that at one point after my move here in July 2012 I thought I'd never make any friends, let alone meet any people, in California.
I think focusing on these relationships will help remind me what I truly do have. And who knows, maybe through that a special someone will peep between the clouds. I guess I'll just have to wait until 2015 to find out. : )
#HeadingInto2015
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